I've often thought about consulting a family counselor regarding my inability to relate in some ways to my children. But I worry about the trend of so many doctors and therapists pointing both parents and children toward prescription medications as a cure-all for everything. I realized that I just want someone to talk to who has had similar experience. I did a little internet search and lo-and-behold, I'm not alone. I found these beautiful letters out on the internet and they got me thinking. Maybe the best therapy is an open ear.
This letter talks about what it means to have the "good life". How we so often try to make up for our shortcomings by trying to provide things to our children.
at Madame Deals
Karla at Madame deals takes some time to write a letter to her children on Valentine's Day.
"My little girl is gone; tucked away in the memories of my heart. You, my big girl have grown into an amazing young woman who will leave your teen years in a few short months. You continues to grow, mature and cultivate your own life story and your own love story; one that only you can write. I look forward to watching your story unfold and am more than proud of the person you have become."
at the Elephant Journal
A mother's touching letter to her children after the Sandy Hook tragedy.
"I suppose that you’re wondering what it is that is going on in this great big crazy world. And, as with all things, you’re probably looking to me to provide you answers, insight… perhaps, even a little light. But the truth is, it’s not always easy being a parent and finding always just the very right thing to say."
from Hip Mum
A letter from a mother to her kids with advice on life and happiness.
"Know that many people will cross your path in life. Some will hurt you, betray you and some will confuse you. Not all people are meant to stay in your life forever. They will however, all have a purpose. Be grateful for the lesson and don’t stick around."
A heart warming letter from a mom to moms of young children offering encouragement.
"We tried crying it out but I just couldn't do it. In the end I surrendered and by the time Brienne was born I was one of those quasi-attachment type mothers. I say quasi because I don't like labels and I also did things different from typical attachment philosophy. We found our own way."
at The Stir
The title says it all for this one.
"I'm also sorry for wondering why you always, well, looked a little disheveled. Not put-together like you did before you had kids. And I'm not just talking about the baby weight (even though, at the time, the moms I knew best were Kate Hudson and Natalie Portman, and they lost the weight quickly)."
What better therapy is there than this? I may be doing my own letter soon. Have you ever written an open letter to anyone online? Did it help?